September 08, 2009

Here's for all you single wives

I know - the term "single wife" makes absolutely no sense...right? Well, for some of us wives, we have come to understand this term very well once football season starts. That's right- to all of us girls who suddenly wonder if you've turned invisible, uninteresting, and less than entertaining, this is for you. I know that my husband tends to be a little extreme with his football passion, but I know there are a lot of us out there who wonder why we are no longer as appealing to our spouses once college football starts. I'm advising you not to take it personally. This is just a side effect of men's one-track minds. Yes- ONE-track mind. Meaning men are completely incapable of giving you all of their time and attention when they are so focused on football (or anything else for that matter). Now in my house, BYU is definitely the team of choice. Chad idolizes them and would secretly give his left arm just to hang out with Bronco Mendenhall or Max Hall (or any other player for that matter) for just one day. He has dreams about playing on their team. Like real dreams- wakes up in the morning and tells me all about how Bronco put him in during the 4th quarter to save the Cougs. Seriously- this is all true. But with my husbands love for the Cougars, he is also obsessed with whoever plays in the same conference so he can eye up his competition. He also watches the teams that are going to play the teams that are going to play the Cougars. Does that make sense? So they don't even have to be playing the Cougars, he just likes to know EVERYTHING about EVERY team. It gets exhausting to try to follow. So here's what I do and I advise you all to do the same- milk it! Milk it for all you can. Let me tell you, it's hard being a wife who suddenly takes a back seat to football, but there is something that we can do to keep ourselves in the game. While Chad is way enthralled in a game, I ask for a back rub, foot rub or he has to play with my hair. Let's face it, he's not going anywhere for a few hours so he can spare the time. Other times I use this time to my shopping advantage. He gets to indulge for 3 plus hours watching a game, I get to indulge in a little retail therapy of my own. It also goes without saying that he gets to spend some quality daddy daughter time with Ava while I enjoy a relaxing shopping trip to the mall. Love it. So while I'm slowly adjusting to being a single wife, it's got its perks. I'd love some input on how you other single wives deal with football season too. We can build a little support group. For all of you wives that don't have this issue, maybe a little advice on what it is you're doing to keep your husband year-round! :) For the record, I absolutely love Chad. I wouldn't change anything about him. He is perfect for me in every way. Go Cougars!